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A fetish is limiting one’s appreciation of a person to one singular aspect which, as Pam says about herself, ignores and diminishes the rest of herself as a person and reduces her to an object. I am in the camp of responses to Hair To Stay that sees shaving female body hair as the real fetish and should be the practice to be discouraged as something like child pornography!
Seeing private female body hair for the first time seems to be a favorable write-in topic for Hair To Stay readers and is described along with the discovery of the pleasures of sex, baseball, apple pie, having a driver’s license at age sixteen, as just plain growing up. Someone wrote to me a few years ago, about the power female body hair has to turn men on and those men who pressure women to shave can’t deal with it. In my experience though, it is some women who pressure other women to shave, “because it isn’t fashionable,” when in reality, perhaps, they can’t stand the competition.
I had a girl friend a few years ago, G-d bless her heart, who told me she got a better sensation during sex if she shaved her pubic hair. Now there is an argument you shouldn't try to refute but she was a great lay anyway (prig), hair or no hair. We had a great relationship I’ll never forget until she died of the cancer she knew she had, and I will miss her terribly for as long as I live, hair or no hair.
Personally, I appreciate a lady’s willingness to use all of the intelligence she’s got and not hold back, even more than I appreciate female body hair, like telling me when she thinks I’m full of bologna or backing me up with ideas of her own when I’m trying to deal with a difficult situation. I just love a woman like that in bed, hair or no hair, or a lady who takes care of her own affairs or makes sure she gets off during sex. These are all great turn-ons for me and yeah, if they are not this, I’m not really interested. I guess what I’m interested in more than anything is a female partner life, hair or no hair.
I also had a dog once. Now you are really going to think I am weird. She was a Shelty who insisted on having this kind of relationship with me: (hey, if you are into that I know of a great magazine...) she would refuse to walk past a house with me when there was another dog in the back yard that lives there, because she knew there would be trouble. She would also refuse to let me hold her on my lap unless I was upset or had been to the dentist. Then she would ask to be held for as long as I wanted. Dogs don’t seem to distinguish between emotional and physical pain for themselves either, but it was just that my Shelty wasn’t going to put up with any nonsense from me; and certainly she wasn't the submission, peace-at-any-costs bullbeep type. If she wasn’t ready to come inside the house from her position on the front lawn, we had to negotiate the situation until one of use acquiesced to the other. Now I dearly loved that dog to the bottom of my heart until I couldn’t stand it any more and one of the ways I would express it to her was that she would let me give her a great big gentle hug. I would bury my face, yes, in all her luxurious fur and smell the fresh air odor it would take on from being outside on her own on a nice day.
For those of us who really appreciate body hair like this, men and women alike, there is something about it that goes beyond sexuality like a nice warm fuzzy have-you-hugged-your-child-today?? and a personal sense of physical security, warmth and closeness that a great big hug gives us. Women like to cuddle and to be held, I have been told, and maybe men could stand to drop the macho a bit and admit we like it, too, in all this so-called “sexual” response to female body hair.
Over the years I may have been practicing something of what I am preaching here, in that I have had a full beard, not really the greatest, for over 25 years now, thinking it was that I didn’t want to bother to shave every morning. Women seemed to appreciate it because it didn’t scratch their face during an embrace, and a friend of my ex-wife some years ago once gave me a kiss on the cheek just because she wanted “to see what it felt like.” So why can’t society extend to women the same freedom of choice and appeal as to men?? To be honest, I don't really appreciate makeup on woman or those artificially long nails either, but I do get turned on by those stretch marks (will you marry me??), long hanging breasts and cesarean surgical scars, etc. that women are also forced to feel defensive and self-conscious about. So, please, boys and girls, ladies and gentlemen, let’s give it all a rest and appreciate and support women for what they really are, a great lay (prig, prig) and a great friend and encourage women to let it all out.
And so too it is, in my opinion, the same for women in their relationship with men. It’s like the Sampson and Delilah story, she cut his hair to control him by castrating (yea) him of his strength. So ladies, like Pam says about herself, you got to stick up for yourself instead and tell the men in your life, “appreciate me for the lady I am and I’ll turn your ass on until you won’t know if you’re cuming or going to cum.” (pub. note: Did I say that??) Only w hen we men can fully surrender to a woman’s power to turn us on, hair or no hair, will we have a true sensual and interpersonal equality with women. So let’s hear it from you ladies and let the best man you can find get it all of what you got.
Do I think female body hair is a fetish? Who cares really?? Real friends don’t hold the other to any particular standard. Female body hair might be a symbol, though, by where men and women need to go with each other: great friends, a great lay and a great respect for the natural order of the relationship, hair or no hair.
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